Insecurity

Salam.

As a woman/girl/lady, there is a lot in my mind and one of it is insecurity on not being enough in term of appearance and look. There is ridiculously high standard set by don’t-know-who to women, and that make me feel like I am never ‘there’.

There are days when I am insecure on my look, I don’t feel like I am pretty enough or slender enough to fit I-don’t-know-who’s standard. I called my mother and talked about this. My mother said, ‘World is for everyone. Set your mind that this world is for everyone because if you think world only works for those who are pretty or rich or people that has it all, God has make us all equal. Focus to have a good mindset. Don’t clutter your mind with the unnecessary worrying. First, the shaytan like to see us  miserable, so they always plant disturbance into our mind, to avoid us making peace with life and eventually God. Second, don’t be bothered with TV commercial that playing on women’s insecurity to promote their product. Focus to improve your inner self, your health’.

I am lucky to have heard and be reminded of this from my role model. Despite everywhere ads and commercials manipulating women’s insecurity, I hope I will not be swayed by that. I am always aware that there is no shortcut in getting better. To look radiant and presentable, I prefer to believe in those rather than consuming colorful liquid loaded with dubious ingredient, ‘For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others, for beautiful lips, speak only word of kindness, and for poise, walk with knowledge that you are never alone’ - Audrey Hepburn.

For health, I believe consistency is the key, in term of exercise,mindset and food intake. Again, I don’t believe in taking pills without doctor prescription. I love Prof Imelda Balchin consistent reminder for women to always put our health first, both physically and mentally before anything. She also urge everyone to believe that inner beauty and potential is much more valuable than one’s look.

Having this kind of reminder is truly important for me, it was like a reset if I did sway or concern too much. There is so much more to be grateful for, it was just me that refuse to shift my view.

Bye and have a good day!